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Have to Vs Get to


 

 

                                                                        HAVE-TO vs GET-TO

 

The choice of words you pick to describe a task or event, colors the way you do it, the success you have with it, and the pleasure you derive from it.

 

 

 

 Think about the mindset that says “I have to make those calls. I have to do my homework. I have to get organized.”  When we “effort hard” by using will power to make changes and to get things done; the more we do, the more resistance we can create.  Likelihood is that doing something with a not-so-great attitude will produce not-the-best outcome. Reframe the task by saying “I get to” and the previous experiences of those great moments of anticipation and excitement shift our outlook, our physical and mental behavior.  When we “have to,” we slump, feel the energy drain, hide. When we “get to,” we straighten up, look forward, make eye contact and allow ourselves to enjoy the task.  Why not pleasure? It’s a choice.

 

 

 

When we characterize something as “hard” or “difficult” we associate the task with an element of discomfort that we hold as an idea from our past. In reality, the thing to be done is simply: the thing to be done. We’ve never done it THIS TIME before. It’s new. If you’ve given the same presentation 1000 times, isn’t this a new audience? This simple perspective creates new experience, fresh task, an adventure. By holding to a past idea of a past experience (or someone else’s experience or negative view!), the old ideas conjured by such words as Hard or Difficult color what we are about to do. It is an attitude and a choice we make. Consider Challenging, Exciting for the same act - and we gravitate with different posture and heightened expectation.

 

 

 

If making contacts for your business (prospecting or lead generating) was always easy and fun, everyone would be doing it.  Many, with the best of intentions, don’t.  With more doors knocked, appointments go up, sales increase, financial stress is reduced and people generally have better health and emotional peace.  This is about improving the quality of life.  This we all know.

 

 

 

If your kids came home from school looking forward to doing their homework, they would inevitably procrastinate less, do better in school, have less pressure and have more free time to do things that interest them.  We and they know this.

 

 

 

If we dealt with the clutter that surrounds us daily and kept our homes, offices and cars neat and orderly, how much high drama could w e eliminat e about losing papers and keys and stressing over loose ends (to say nothing of sleeping better at night and experiencing greater calm)?  We know this too..

 

 

 

If you are getting tired of doing the same old dance, if you do these and other similar tasks, but do them “kicking and screaming,” there is a better way.  Life is too short to stay stuck when there are positive options.  It’s not hard, but it does take paying attention, making a shift and practice.  If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well.

 

 AGAIN (Say aloud this time) : The choice of words I pick to describe a task or event, colors the way I do it, the success I have with it, and the pleasure I derive from it.

 

 

 

 Before doing anything that had previously been hard, difficult or uncomfortable, take a breath, lower your shoulders and verbally tell yourself that you will do the activity well, and comfortably.  Know that your thoughts and words, even if contrived, make a definite difference in your outcome and sense of accomplishment.  The breath and shoulder dropping will become a physical anchor, and in a few weeks you will approach your tasks automatically this way and with better focus. 

 

1.       Do the activity with the mindset that when you look back, with the perspective of time, you will take pride in not just doing the activity well, but effortlessly, with class and style.  If you were being watched by your kids, what message would your better attitude teach?  Probably a great life lesson that you can control the way you handle your life.  The feelings of how you did something will last far longer than the result of most actions you perform.

 

2.     Practice seeing yourself in situations you normally find distasteful or difficult and change the script in your head by seeing yourself enjoying whatever the event is.  If you rehearse this positive behavior in your head (especially in a state of relaxation where you experience less mental chatter and resistance) it is inevitable that you will find yourself demonstrating this behavior in your life. Thoughts are things!

 

3.     Until this ease of performance becomes automatic, act “AS IF” it already were.  The more you show yourself what you can do rather than what you can’t, the faster and easier the change of behavior becomes.

 

Little changes (shifts in consciousness) make huge differences (performance.)

 

I look forward to your feedback and success stories.  Please pass this on. 

 

If your office or organization could use a speaker with something positive, interesting and powerfull to contribute, please consider me and get in touch.  Thanks.

 

 

 

 

 

Barry Eisen
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/have-to-vs-get-to-751431.html

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4 Responses to “Have to Vs Get to”

  1. MMFCL *Colton James due 6/30/09* Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 3:51 am

    Why do I have to pay federal taxes on my unemployment money?
    From my understanding, they calculate your unemployment benefits from how much you made during certain quarters. And out of these paychecks that you have received, they have already taken federal taxes out, some of which go to the unemployment fund, which means that your unemployment money is your money anyway. So why do we get double taxed on it?

  2. wartz Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 8:53 am

    Unemployment benefits are paid from money collected from employers. Anything you have paid is deductible.
    References :

  3. bostonianinmo Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 8:55 am

    You pay taxes on it because the law says that you do. Pretty simple there!

    You’re not being double taxed. Unemployment comp is based upon your GROSS pay during the qualification period.

    The unemployment trust fund is funded primarily by employer taxes. A few states do allow a small portion of that to be paid by employees but that’s really a moot point. The fact that a portion of any taxes that you paid might conceivably wind up funding unemployment is irrelevant and does not mean that you’re being double taxed.
    References :

  4. Dennis Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 8:57 am

    Yes you pay taxes on unemployment. You should recieve a form 1099
    and you must (!!!) enter it as income on your tax form.

    5 years experience, hurts.
    References :

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Have to Vs Get to


 

 

                                                                        HAVE-TO vs GET-TO

 

The choice of words you pick to describe a task or event, colors the way you do it, the success you have with it, and the pleasure you derive from it.

 

 

 

 Think about the mindset that says “I have to make those calls. I have to do my homework. I have to get organized.”  When we “effort hard” by using will power to make changes and to get things done; the more we do, the more resistance we can create.  Likelihood is that doing something with a not-so-great attitude will produce not-the-best outcome. Reframe the task by saying “I get to” and the previous experiences of those great moments of anticipation and excitement shift our outlook, our physical and mental behavior.  When we “have to,” we slump, feel the energy drain, hide. When we “get to,” we straighten up, look forward, make eye contact and allow ourselves to enjoy the task.  Why not pleasure? It’s a choice.

 

 

 

When we characterize something as “hard” or “difficult” we associate the task with an element of discomfort that we hold as an idea from our past. In reality, the thing to be done is simply: the thing to be done. We’ve never done it THIS TIME before. It’s new. If you’ve given the same presentation 1000 times, isn’t this a new audience? This simple perspective creates new experience, fresh task, an adventure. By holding to a past idea of a past experience (or someone else’s experience or negative view!), the old ideas conjured by such words as Hard or Difficult color what we are about to do. It is an attitude and a choice we make. Consider Challenging, Exciting for the same act - and we gravitate with different posture and heightened expectation.

 

 

 

If making contacts for your business (prospecting or lead generating) was always easy and fun, everyone would be doing it.  Many, with the best of intentions, don’t.  With more doors knocked, appointments go up, sales increase, financial stress is reduced and people generally have better health and emotional peace.  This is about improving the quality of life.  This we all know.

 

 

 

If your kids came home from school looking forward to doing their homework, they would inevitably procrastinate less, do better in school, have less pressure and have more free time to do things that interest them.  We and they know this.

 

 

 

If we dealt with the clutter that surrounds us daily and kept our homes, offices and cars neat and orderly, how much high drama could w e eliminat e about losing papers and keys and stressing over loose ends (to say nothing of sleeping better at night and experiencing greater calm)?  We know this too..

 

 

 

If you are getting tired of doing the same old dance, if you do these and other similar tasks, but do them “kicking and screaming,” there is a better way.  Life is too short to stay stuck when there are positive options.  It’s not hard, but it does take paying attention, making a shift and practice.  If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well.

 

 AGAIN (Say aloud this time) : The choice of words I pick to describe a task or event, colors the way I do it, the success I have with it, and the pleasure I derive from it.

 

 

 

 Before doing anything that had previously been hard, difficult or uncomfortable, take a breath, lower your shoulders and verbally tell yourself that you will do the activity well, and comfortably.  Know that your thoughts and words, even if contrived, make a definite difference in your outcome and sense of accomplishment.  The breath and shoulder dropping will become a physical anchor, and in a few weeks you will approach your tasks automatically this way and with better focus. 

 

1.       Do the activity with the mindset that when you look back, with the perspective of time, you will take pride in not just doing the activity well, but effortlessly, with class and style.  If you were being watched by your kids, what message would your better attitude teach?  Probably a great life lesson that you can control the way you handle your life.  The feelings of how you did something will last far longer than the result of most actions you perform.

 

2.     Practice seeing yourself in situations you normally find distasteful or difficult and change the script in your head by seeing yourself enjoying whatever the event is.  If you rehearse this positive behavior in your head (especially in a state of relaxation where you experience less mental chatter and resistance) it is inevitable that you will find yourself demonstrating this behavior in your life. Thoughts are things!

 

3.     Until this ease of performance becomes automatic, act “AS IF” it already were.  The more you show yourself what you can do rather than what you can’t, the faster and easier the change of behavior becomes.

 

Little changes (shifts in consciousness) make huge differences (performance.)

 

I look forward to your feedback and success stories.  Please pass this on. 

 

If your office or organization could use a speaker with something positive, interesting and powerfull to contribute, please consider me and get in touch.  Thanks.

 

 

 

 

 

Barry Eisen
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/have-to-vs-get-to-751431.html

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This entry was posted on Thursday, October 8th, 2009 at 3:51 am and is filed under dance lesson. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.

3 Responses to “Have to Vs Get to”

  1. sdgoodfun Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 3:51 am

    How much does it cost to have my hormones tested?
    I am 46 years old. My doctor thinks I might be in peri-menopause. I still have a regular period, but have terrible insomnia. I don’t have any medical insurance right now, She wants me to have my hormones tested. How much will it cost me out of pocket?

  2. Texas RN Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 8:53 am

    My doctor’s lab charges $154 for a CBC (complete blood count which) includes everything from hormone levels, to thyroid levels, to calcium levels, etc. I would request a CBC and a copy of your results for you to keep. :0)

    It sounds like you are peri-menopausal… Welcome to the next stage of womanhood! :0)
    References :

  3. Paul R Says:
    October 8th, 2009 at 8:55 am

    At first,you may collect as much information as you can by inputing the relevant keywords in search engine,if you get good luck there ,then your problem is solved.nevertheless,if you could not find the ideal answer for your question by doing that,here

    http://www.HealthInsuranceFree.info

    is the resource i suggest.
    References :

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